Three Ways To Get What You Want Out Of Life

“You are the only problem you will ever have and you are the only solution. Change is inevitable, personal growth is always a personal decision.” ~Bob Proctor


What do you want the most out of life? Is it recognition? Wealth? Peace? Connection? Family? What’s something that you daydream about every single day?

For me, I remember the exact moment I realized I wanted something different for my life. I was sixteen years old, driving home from my part time job and I felt utter disgust. Is this really what working feels like? I hated it.

I hated being cursed out by my boss. I hated having to wait on impatient customers, cleaning up messes, and staying locked up in a tiny box staring at the same old walls day in and day out.

This can’t be all there is.

That night when I got home, I pulled out my computer and did a search. I hate my job. And my journey for a new purpose began.

Decide Now What You Want

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” ~ Napoleon Hill


Have you ever experienced that? That slap in the face where you recognize, Oh… this is NOT where I want to be! It’s not pleasant. In fact, it’s terrifying, but also enlightening.

When you recognize that you’re not where you want to be, you can start making the changes to get where you want to go. But… where’s that?

Well, what do you want? 🙂

I certainly can’t tell you. You’re gonna to have to figure out for yourself my friend. Do you want to be a pilot? Do you want to be a chemical engineer, artist, therapist, musician, athlete? What is it that you day dream about?

You might be thinking, yeah well, that’s great and all but there are so many things that I want, how do I choose? What’s right?

Good questions. I’ve wondered the same thing. In fact, it left me blundering around for many years after my sixteen year old crisis. And you know what?

It was a complete waste of my time.

Granted, I learned a lot, but here’s the biggest lesson I wished I would have learned and applied sooner.

Get Up And DO Something

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step” ~ Lao Tzu

The First Step

Stressing and worrying over your choices causes only anxiety and depression. I finally figured out that if I wanted to get what I wanted, I had to start doing something. Even if it took me in the wrong direction. For the time being, it was something. And that’s key.

Find that first step into the life that you’re seeking and take it.

If you want to date more people, join an online dating site. There’s tons of them out there! Want to be a musician? Take a class. Practice.

If you don’t know where to go, don’t wait around. Get up and Do Something! You have to act.

Get Results

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” ~ Helen Keller

Get Results

When you’re up and moving in the right direction, you’re going to be tempted to stop. Things will block your path. You Must Keep Moving Forward.

Nothing will happen in your life until you start getting results. People won’t notice you until you give them something to see. Now what do I mean by that?

An artist can’t enter a gallery without paintings. A musician can’t perform until they have a repertoire of music. A mechanic can’t work without experience and knowledge. A writer can’t sell their work until they write. And on and on.

It takes practice and determination. It takes a drive to get the results that you want. It’s how Thomas Edison managed to invent the light-bulb. How Henry Ford built his automobile. They couldn’t have done that without starting their journey and seeing it through to the end.

If you’re concerned about getting on the wrong path, don’t worry. Keep your heart open to insight and impressions. If it feels wrong, then adjust your course.

Don’t let your fears keep you from taking that first step.

And once you’ve found that path, have the courage to see your journey through to the end.

You can do it 🙂

While working on this article, I found a bunch of other resources that had more insight into this topic. If you’d like to learn more, please check them out, they have some really insightful tips.

Also, if you have any book suggestions or articles on the topic I’d love to hear it! As always, thanks for reading!



Attitude is Everything

Hey y’all! Just wanted to post a short little blurb today. Someone showed me this poem a little while ago and I wanted to share it all with you. You’ve got to make sure to read it like normal first, and then read it from the bottom to the top 🙂


Life is what you make it.

I love that. You can choose whether to see the good or evil in this world. You can choose to believe that there’s no hope, or believe that there are opportunities right within your grasp.

It’s your choice.

You always have a choice to make your life what you will.

My goal for this new year is to learn new things and go on some adventures! There are so many things that life has to offer and I want to experience it to the fullest!I0CDZXUIR0

For those of you who want to make this year your best yet, here are some thoughts that one of my friends shared on Facebook that I’m sharing to you with his permission:

-Dont set goals, generate systems.
-Receive a calling not a job or task.
-No such thing as time management, there’s only management of activities.
-Next year might have new interesting combos like your old self and new self becoming one, or like Fiber-one Poptarts and cargo pocket suit pants.
-Identify that other people’s worries usually surface before your own. They’re not always yours.
-Train the brain for action, count down 3,2,1…then act.
-Invite your sub-concious tones to a party and make new friends with your authentic self.
-Walk like an Egyptian (just because)
-Fear setting, helps challenge and exercise your faith.
-Memories are medicine.
– “Your future hasn’t been written yet. No one’s has. Your future is whatever you make it. So make it a good one,” – Doc Brown from Back to the Future.

Choose this Year to Be Your Year


So, cheers to making this year your best yet! I hope that you will be able to accomplish the goals that you set out to do and become the person that you’ve always wanted to be.

It’s never too late to apologize and do the right thing. It’s never too late to be the change you want to see in the world. It’s never too late to go out there and experience life.

It’s your life. Make the most of it 🙂



In the Hands of the Maker

A few days ago, I had the wonderful experience of learning how to turn a small block of wood into a beautiful pen by using a wooden lathe.

In a word, it was awesome!

I’ve never made something like this before and I had a blast! It also made me think of the symbolism of the master carpenter. I hope you don’t mind if I share my rambling thoughts with you 🙂

Making a Pen

In order to make a proper pen, there are several steps involved. First, you need the proper materials, tools, and environment in which to work. All of your tools must be sharpened, wood properly measured, and location appropriately placed.


Next, the wood is cut, drilled, and glued in order to fit the proper equipment inside. From there, you place the piece on the lathe, turn on the machine, and gently use your cutting tools to round out the rough edges. It takes a soft but firm hand in order to smooth out all of the corners. If you jab too hard the wood can catch and potentially force your chisel to slap back at you. Too soft and you won’t be able to carve away the pieces that aren’t needed. Also, you must keep your chisels straight, or else you can gouge and ruin your work.

This whole process goes from a blank piece of wood into a beautiful piece of equipment.


Shaping my own piece revealed to me the time and care a master carpenter must put into their work. Once they have their craft mastered, they can create amazing works of art in a short amount of time that will stun potential customers. It’s crazy to think that a little piece of wood can be carved into something so unique and useful.

And that reminds me of life.

Each of us starts off as a blank slate.


We have our own personalities, features, and characteristics that make us who we are (just as wood has different textures, hardness, grains, and colors). Throughout life we go through challenges that slowly shape us into the people we become. Oftentimes life is fun like being polished, but other times, challenges are like blades that chip away at our character and teach us powerful lessons.


In the end, the hope is that we’ll become the incredible beings we were always meant to be. It’s not easy. And it’s not always fun, but with a gentle and firm hand the creator shapes us into powerful influences. Whether for good or ill per our choice, he is always shaping us.


It’s easy to forget that. I know I do. But no matter how long we’ve lived and what we’ve experienced, the master carpenter always has his hand on us.


Why You Matter

It’s true. In your tiny spot of the trillions of galaxies surrounding us, you matter.


Here’s why.

Out of the billions of people who exist on this planet, there’s no one like you. No one’s lived in your circumstances or been through the same stuff. No one thinks like you, not in the same way.

Do You Know How Incredible You Are?


Everything you do influences the people around you. A simple touch, look, smile, may transform someone you’d never suspect. You have the power to shape the lives of millions of people.

You might think that’s crazy. I know it’s hard to believe. How can you affect that many people? You’re just one person.

Well, think about this. What if a smile you gave someone helped them choose to live another day? What if, because of your smile, they decided to push themselves and become the scientist who discovers the cure for cancer?

What if your hug today, saved someone’s life?

You’re probably thinking, yeah right. That might be true for some people, but not me. That’s impossible.

Impossible? How many times have we proved the impossible, possible? That someone from Canada can communicate with an Australian in seconds by the flip of a switch should be impossible. That hundreds of thousands of pages of information are uploaded into this huge system known as the internet should be impossible. That you’re reading this right now should be impossible.

But it’s not. And neither is it impossible that you have the power to inspire the people around you.

You’re never gonna meet anyone like you. That should be impossible. Even if you have a twin, they’re not completely like you. No one is. And amazingly enough, no one ever will be.

Time always ticks forward, and no one’s gonna occupy your space in it.

No one has your smile, your touch, your influence. No one’s gonna transform the world like you. Think about that.

You’re Irreplaceable.


Your best friend won’t find someone like you again. Your parents aren’t gonna have a child like you twice. And even if you don’t have any friends or family, that doesn’t matter. No one’s got your eyes, your smile, your heart. No one’s gonna touch the world like you.

They can’t. They’re not you.

It’s hard to know if our lives mean anything. Trust me, I know. But no one can take away your influence.

No One Will Ever Be Like You.


Even if you don’t believe me, I want you to try something. Close your eyes and breathe in deep. Shut out the sound and look inside. Do you hear that? It’s your heart. And there’s nobody on this planet who’s got one like it.

So get out there. Be you. And transform the world.

Five Tips To Help You Reach Your Goals

1. Clean Up Your Space


It’s amazing what a little organization can do for your ego. I recently moved to a new state and for the past month have been living in a room that just looked and felt like a pig sty.

And it destroyed my creativity!

Every time I entered my personal space, I just wanted to veg out and crash. Definitely not a good motivational boost.

When I finally buckled down and moved my shoe rack into my closet and my leatherworking stuff into the basement, it felt like entering a brand new room. I was so excited, I decided to go ahead and clear up my desktop space as well.

That move really got my creative juices flowing. Every time I open my laptop now, I get a warm fuzzy feeling of pride. (Course, it took me until 4:00 in the morning to do… Figures…) But it was worth it!

2. Exercise

I don’t know what it is, the endorphins, or what, but exercising is an amazing boost for finishing your projects. Two days ago, I finally decided I was just going to get over it and exercise for twenty minutes.Exercise

It. Was. Amazing.

The exercising itself was brutal of course, but afterwards, I was so pumped I decided to get into the shower and put on my war paint! (Haha, what I lovingly call my make-up. It’s the only thing that gets me to put the stupid stuff on :P)

And let me tell you, when you’ve got in some exercise and your best clothes on, you just feel like strutting. When you exercise, you get your crap together. It’s just plain and simple.

3. Listen To Motivational Stuff


The kind of things that you listen to make a huge difference to how your day will play out. At my current job, there are moments where I have to mentally blast some intense music in order to get moving. My job can be very fast paced and it’s easy to drown if I’m not bookin’ it!

What you listen to can make or break you. Anything that you feed your brain will influence your actions. So make sure that food is the best stuff possible! Motivational Speakers, Ted Talks, Uplifting music, anything that helps you get to where you want to go.

4. If You Don’t Know What To Do, Just Do Something


It often takes a small step of faith to move in the right direction. I don’t know how many times I’ve opened a link or clicked on a webinar out of curiosity and it led me to a bunch of other opportunities that paved my way forward.

Sitting around, scratching your head in confusion will get you nowhere fast. Make a decision and just go for it. Decide what you want to do and take the steps to get there. Set a date. Buy a ticket. Set a goal. Get in your car and drive if you have to.

Stop waiting around and just do it. You won’t regret it. 🙂

5. Dust Yourself Off And Try Again

IMG_0004It’s going to happen. You’re going to trip and fall. It’s probably going to hurt. It’ll probably be frustrating. You know what? It’s okay.

Get up. Try again. Failed one goal? Try another. Losing interest? Try something else. Learn from your mistakes and try again.

Haha, I can’t even tell you how many websites I’ve tried to set up and failed. How many blogs I’ve created and given up. But I’m not done yet.

Sometimes all it takes is that little switch and you find yourself in the right place at the right time. Just keep getting up and trying.


Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes it’s hard to find the motivation to keep following your dreams. In fact, it’s often really hard. 🙂

But as long as you keep learning and trying, you’ll get there some day. It doesn’t matter how long it takes. All that matters is that you’re on the right track.

Just Believe

Seven Amazing Things About You

1. You’re Alive

A photo by Ben White.

What a beautiful thing it is to be alive, today, right now. Nothing can take away the influence that you have on the world around you. Nothing can take away you. What a beautiful thing that is.

2. You Can Change


Isn’t that amazing? No matter what life has dealt you… you can always change. You can make the most out of the situation. You can learn and grow. It doesn’t have to be the same day in and day out. You can create your own destiny.

3. You Are Loved


You are loved by so many. Even if they may be unseen, there are people rooting for you. People who love you so much. There are strangers in the world right now who want to meet you and become friends with you. There are people that want to lift you to greater heights. You matter.

4. You Can Change the World


That’s right. You. You can gain the know how. You can find the right people at the right time. You can influence hundreds if not thousands of people. Even millions. One step in the right direction can lead to a better, more hopeful planet.

5. Pain Makes You Who You Are


Believe it not, it’s the scars that make you more beautiful. The scars that you have make you unique and bring you closer to those around you. The hard things in life help you recognize the good. Pain can be an excellent, but difficult teacher.

6. You Are The Only Thing Stopping You


It’s true. The only thing keeping you from achieving your dreams is you. It’s as simple as that. Master yourself, you master your life. Conquer your fears, you tear down the wall blocking you.

7. If You Believe It, Nothing Can Stop You


Stop and think about that for a moment. If you truly believe something, truly, with every single cell in your body, there’s absolutely nothing that can stop you. If something’s important to you, really important, you’ll cling to it with everything you’ve got.

Do you know how powerful you are?

It’s incredible.


Drop the Reins and Enjoy the Ride

I’m sorry that I haven’t posted in a while. I’ve been in the process of moving and it has taken every last ounce of my time and energy to get everything packed and organized. But now that I’m settled in, I wanted to write about some advice my good friend gave to me the night before my big move.

Drop the Reins


When I suggested the idea of packing up and leaving town, my parents believed that it was unsafe for my little junker car to make the drive from Arizona to Utah. They decided to pull it by trailer and make the journey with me.

Now that I look back on it, it was so sweet and definitely something they didn’t have to do, but my independent heart hated the idea in the moment. Thoughts like, what would people think of me or I would look like such a brat kept running around in my head.

When I told my friend this, she just gave me this look and said, “Drop the reins.”

My good friend is a country girl at heart and knows that I am too. Her words struck home.

While horseback riding, there’s a temptation to tighten your grip on the reins when you feel nervous or helpless. It’s easy to tense up and try to take control of the situation. However, when you do that, it can agitate your horse. This leads to a bad situation potentially getting worse.

It’s why my instructor always told me to count to four when I breathed so I could relax. When I relaxed, the situation became calmer and I rode more confidently.

Anyways, when my friend said that, I felt caught. I could just feel my cheeks burning up and I stumbled to find something else to say.

She was right

I was trying to take control of a situation and be strong when I didn’t have to. My parents were doing something nice for me. I didn’t have to be so high and mighty about it.

I probably could have stuffed everything in my car and made the drive. My Saturn Ion might’ve been just fine. Except, coming up with my parents grew to be a blessing.

When I got to Utah, I realized that I had no idea where my apartment was. I struggled to contact the girl whose room I was moving into. It became a bit of a fiasco that I had also come a day earlier and forgot to let my roommates know.

Anyways, thankfully, my parents had smart phones so I could quickly message people in order to get the help I needed. Without them, I probably would’ve been stranded. (I’m still saving up for my own smart phone :P)

Also, how sweet of it was for my mom and dad to take the time off to make sure I was taken care of? A lot of people don’t have both their parents around and, even if they do, they may not be willing or able to drive their child to another state. The action made me feel helpless, but it truly was a service on their part.

And it just made me think.

How many times have I wanted to take the reins?


And how often has that denied someone the opportunity to serve and help me?

We were put in this life together in order to help each other grow. If people were meant to be alone, we would’ve been placed individually on our own planet, but that’s not the way things are.

We were placed here to connect and serve one another. Sometimes I get so worked up about wanting to be by myself and living on my own that I forget the importance of the relationships in my life.

In my search to be strong and alone, I leave myself open to a great deal of pain.


As Master Oogway said in Kung Fu Panda, “My old friend, the panda will never fulfill his destiny and you, yours, until you let go of the illusion of control.”

When I drop the reins and turn to those closest to me, it gives me strength. As I open my heart, others are able to come in and buoy me up. Life’s always a give and take or a balancing act.

I’m so grateful that my parents were willing to make that drive for me. I’m so grateful for the wonderful people in my life who give me the advice that I need to be better.

I would not be who I am today if not for them.


What about you? What’s helped you to drop the reins in your life? How has that experience changed or taught you?

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